My first 30 days into my new life.
What a crazy beautiful month this has been! I’ve settled into my life here as butter settles onto a baguette (I had to). When I moved to France in 2011 for the year, I arrived at my new house, got settled into my room and immediately thought, “What have I done? I can’t do this.” But this time around, none of that. I was excited to live my life on my terms. I left everything behind to start this new journey on my terms. When people ask, “Well, did you need to leave Canada for that?” Yes. Canada was comfortable, safe and familiar.
Growth requires us to leave our comfort zones. So I left. And I don’t regret my decision in the least.
France is even better than I remember, mostly because I see more of it. Thanks to my car, I have even more freedom to go wherever I please and explore whatever cities and villages are recommended to me. Mostly, I spend time exploring forests. I’m so fortunate that my Airbnb is in the country, where my closest neighbours are cows. My host has shown me some lovely trails that I now frequent on my own. The forests here are even better than the ones I’ve explored back home. Here, everything is bigger and louder. Sometimes, I feel like I’m in the jungle; that’s how noisy the animals are and how lush the greenery is. \
Thanks to the decision to leave my old life behind, I feel so light as I walk in forests.
That lightness helps me connect more to the forest and the moment. I walk the forests genuinely so grateful, happy and peaceful. Sometimes, I even skip along the trail; that’s how happy I am. Of course, the cows on the other side of the stream judge me but whatever. Actually, French cows have made me give up meat. I am a vegetarian since moving here. More on that later.
Overall, I cannot believe this is my life.
But while I nurture my feminine energy by walking in forests, practicing yoga, and getting creative, I also came here to work. Y’all know I am a Personal Development Coach for women. I help women fall in LOVE with their lives (as I have fallen in love with mine). I help women wake up every day energized and excited. I help women attract abundance, love, confidence and freedom. I experience all that every day (I am so happy to get out of bed at 6 AM to connect with women about their struggles). So, while I have been enjoying lots of time nurturing my feminine, I’m also stepping more into my masculine energy.
Masculine energy is action-driven energy. The energy that has us doing, going, getting, protecting and providing.
Now, most women step into their masculine energy for others. They provide for others, do for others, protect others etc. (mothers and wives, you know what I’m talking about), and women rarely harness that energy for themselves. It’s like love. Women feel that love is something they give to others and receive from others. That it is outside of them.
Like love, women believe the masculine is outside them, represented by a romantic partner. And a romantic partner will do for them, get them, protect them and provide for them. Women don’t do it for themselves because they expect a man to do it. This is why many women have weak boundaries. They don’t step into their masculine energy for themselves.
When I realized that, it was a huge AHA! moment.
I have no problem being in my feminine energy. I have big dreams for my coaching practice but I must step into my masculine energy to make it happen. No man can get this for me. I have to get this for me. And that’s what I’ve been doing for the past month. I hired a business coach who helps female coaches with their businesses. She was the one that said, “Sara, you’re really into your feminine energy with your creativity, so now you have to step into your masculine to bring it all to fruition.”
My first thought was, “UGH.” my second thought was, “Ok. Let’s do it.”
I didn’t come here to play small. I came here to live my purpose and love my life. I’ve got the loving my life part down. But living my purpose would require me to do, go after, and get. And I needed guidance with all that. I didn’t know how to be an entrepreneur, and I wasn’t ashamed to ask for help from someone who did know. Seeking help was me stepping into my masculine energy.
Your feminine energy dreams, and making that dream happen is your masculine’s job. He is stepping up to be in service to your feminine. This is how you become balanced.
So I’ve joined this coach’s program and have been extremely busy exercising and strengthening my masculine muscle. There is SO much to do, but I am ok with it. I feel like I’m planting the seeds for great things to come. And even though stepping into my masculine energy does not feel 100% natural, I am really happy I’m getting asked to step into it. Because I am telling myself, “Sara. You are worth it. Your dreams are worth it. You’re going to do great things. I’m going to make sure of it.”
Nothing beats that feeling.
I may not have the business side of my practice 100% yet, but I have the passion and heart to help my fellow women fall in love with their lives. If you want to discuss how I can help you skip along foreign forest trails without worrying about nosey cows, get in touch with me.