Our time and energy
March is right around the corner, which means Spring is almost here! Soon, the snow will melt, and Nature will be in a frenzy. The human world, too. Winter was all about slowing down, resting and reflecting, and cherishing our time and energy. We’re slowly coming out of hibernation as the days get longer and the weather gets warmer. But to honour the practices we’ve put in place over the Winter, it’s important to enter Spring with boundaries in place.
The world will enter a sprint very soon, as it does every Spring. If we don’t want to lose the reserves we’ve built up over the Winter season, we must be mindful of where our time and energy go. People and institutions will vie for our time and energy, and the energy of Spring will trick us into thinking we can/want to do it all. Spring and Summer are short seasons, so the natural world sprints to get things going quickly. Humans, not so much.
Our life is not a sprint; it is a marathon.
To make the most of life– not just Spring and Summer but beyond- we must allocate our energy wisely. This means giving our time and energy to people, things that energize and revitalize us, and saying no to people and things that drain us. Pleasing people does not energize us. Being nice to avoid conflict does not energize us. Being honest about what fuels us and what drains us is courage. Setting boundaries accordingly is courage AND self-love.
I love Nedra Tawwab‘s book “Set Boundaries: Find Peace.” She is our biggest cheerleader in setting healthy boundaries. Her book is one of the books we read in my 12-week program. I would suggest that you follow her on social media. She always posts terrific nuggets of wisdom (aptly named “Nedra’s Nuggets”)
We may not be aware of what and who energizes us, nor who or what drains us. And this is why journaling is so helpful in becoming more self-aware. Through reflecting on our experiences, we discover what truly serves our time and energy and what doesn’t. We are being asked to take stock of what we want to protect this upcoming season and what we want to let go of. Here are some journal prompts for you. As always, feel free to reflect on one or all 3:
- In the past few weeks, what has brought me joy, laughter and energy? What has felt heavy and draining?
- What is one thing I’d like to continue nurturing this upcoming season? And what is one thing I’d like to let go of this upcoming season?
- What is holding me back from being honest about my needs with myself and others?
Permitting ourselves to say YES to things/people that bring us energy goes a long way in showing ourselves love. Saying NO to things/people may cause anxiety, but that is normal. Especially if we’re recovering people-pleasers, I promise it gets easier. The more we get to know ourselves, the more we love ourselves and the more confident we will feel in setting boundaries.